Power Move Monday: Fellas, Be Our Allies
Today’s power move is for the fellas. It’s really important for us as women in the corporate world or the higher education space or any industry to have men as allies. The last thing we need is fewer people on our side in a conference room or a meeting, interrupting us during a meeting, stealing our ideas or even speaking over us.
Pop Culture References
I am finding that pop culture references are a great way to get a point across and this is no exception.
In Hidden Figures, Kevin Costner turned out to be an important ally for Taraji P. Henson’s character. He eventually got rid of coloured only bathrooms and coffee pots. The best line from that scene was uttered by Costner: “We all pee the same color.” His character didn’t care what color or gender his staff was. All he cared about was getting those astronauts into space and then back home safely.
How can we not talk about male allies without mentioning another favorite, Game of Thrones. We all know from the end of last season who rules the world. The women on GoT were gangsta, showing everyone who was boss and who was in charge. But they did have male allies helping them along the way. Granted, they were on mission of power and evil, but you get the point.
Trailblazer Claire Smith
I shared a draft of this blog post and video with one of my male allies. He introduced me to Claire Smith whom I had never heard of. She is an African American sports writer and was the first woman to win the Spink Award which recognizes meritorious achievements in baseball. What better industry than sports to make my point today. In an interview with the Hall of Fame about receiving the Spink Award, Claire Smith said,
I also asked my fellow female writers to come up front and stand next to me because that’s what we do. We stand shoulder to shoulder. And we represented all the women who went before us and who are coming up behind us. I thanked them and we, in turn, thanked the gentlemen in the room because they as a group and so many individually have always stood at our side as well.
They were allies.
In another interview, she shared how she was banned from the locker room during the 1984 San Diego Padres win during the World Series. it was men in the industry, men in baseball who helped her get her interviews and helped her get into the locker rooms to help her compete successfully with other male sports writers.
They were her allies.
So you see fellas. We need you!
How Can Men Be Allies?
We need you guys and we need you today, right now, to make sure we are getting our fair share. I am not saying we are damsels in distress who need to be saved. But we don’t need you to be part of the problem either. Again, studies show that men tend to interrupt women during meetings. Or they tend to repeat the same thing a woman said 5 minutes prior and claim it as their own.
Maybe it is unconscious behavior…perhaps. But now you know. Now you have to start thinking before you speak or before you interrupt and avoid being a detriment to women’s progress.
Have you been an ally lately? Have you looked out for a fellow female colleague in the workplace? Share that with us. Let us know. Role model some ways that you can be an ally to women in your industry.
I can’t wait to hear from you.
That’s the power move for today. #powermovemonday #solutionsnotresolutions You got this!